ASK DAVID & ROZ
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We are inaugurating a new feature here at SDE. David & Roz will answer your relationship questions to the best of their ability - each looking at your problem from their own individual point of view.
David is an attractive bachelor, restaurateur, active, athletic, 55 and very wise in the way of the dating world.
Roz, a widow of a certain age, a business woman, racehorse owner and breeder who is well-traveled, interested and interesting is also here to give you a hand.
They will be your sounding board.
Use the form at the bottom of the page to email us whatever you want their opinions on.
So start now and let us hear from you!
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Dear David and Roz,
"There's a man I see everyday at the supermarket, he's one of the managers. I know he's not married and I think he likes me. We say hello but it never gets beyond a few pleasant words. How do you think I can move it to a more personal level? I'd like to invite him to my house for a dinner or maybe go to amovie together."
- NOTSURE IN IDAHO
ROZ SAYS:
I wouldn't start out with something so intimate as a dinner at home, just the two of you. That might be too scary and even if he's interested he could run for the hill! I'd say a friend gave you two tickets (to a show or an event of some kind) and you wondered if he might like to go with you. It would break the ice and at the same time seem innocuous. Then if he says ok you can "take it from there" as they say, being the smart sharp hip woman you are. And look your prettiest! Good luck.
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DAVID SAYS:
Charm him and be direct. Life is short and every one is attracted to positive enthusiastic energy and something new where we are learning. So:
- In your next encounter I would be complimentary about something in his realm at the store.
- I would advice you to be direct because he may not know you are interested at least in this way.
- After some positive high-energy exchanges I would definitely invite him to something in your world a concert, picnic.
Don't think about what he may want to do but what you can teach and share with him. That's what will turn his head seduce him with all your charms.
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Dear David and Roz,
"I've been dating a woman my own age, 61, for about 3 months now and we get along very well. We're both divorcees and have talked about our past experiences We both have married children and I would be interested in being serious with her but she doesn't seem to show any romantic tendencies, if you know what I mean and I'm still interested in that. I don't know how to move our relationship in that direction. There never seems to be that opportunity or at least I haven't seen it. What do you think I should do."
- PUZZLED BUT HOPEFUL IN NYC
ROZ SAYS:
In my opinion, you just have to jump in. She may be waiting for you to make a move ,and is wondering what's taking you so long. You don't say if on your dates you hold hands in the movies or steal a kiss! I you haven't, you should start. You may find she's just as "interested" as you are, one thing will lea to another and everything will work out just fine. Invite us to the wedding!
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DAVID SAYS:
No fireworks here! After 3 months you should feel and know if the chemistry is there. If she is avoiding placing herself in situations where you could naturally become intimate then I would have a direct conversation with her in regard to her capacity, need and desire for physical and psychological intimacy. On the other hand if you as the man have not taken the lead I would advise inviting her to your place for a backyard cookout or romantic dinner or a picnic in the park. If all goes well I would invite her to stay the night. Hopefully that will do the trick. If it doesn't and you are both still interested I would suggest hormone therapy for both of you or move on or recognize that you are at best activity partners.
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Recent Dating Advice Column from David & Roz
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