ASK DAVID & ROZ
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This is turning out to be quite fun!
You keep sending questions and we'll keep answering them for you!
Here's a little background information for you on our two advisors.
David is an attractive bachelor, restaurateur, active, athletic, 55 and very wise in the way of the dating world.
Roz, a widow of a certain age, a business woman, racehorse owner and breeder who is well-traveled, interested and interesting is also here to give you a hand.
They will be your sounding board.
Use the form at the bottom of the page to email us whatever you want their opinions on.
So start now and let us hear from you!
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Dear David and Roz,
"At 51 I have been divorced for 13yrs. I had 5 blind dates in 1994 and that's all. My 1st date was at age 21, 2nd date 12/77 & married him (13yrs.) I have had no experience in the dating area. I feel like a 14 Yr. Old. I need help. I can't seem to attract anyone least of all a good Guy. I've read books, written Dr. Phil (no answer). I'm slightly over Wt., Average looking, unemployed due to permanent minor memory/physical Problems after endocarditis & heart surgery 2yrs ago. I'm lost, desperate, and extremely lonely. What can be done for me? Help!!!!"
- SHERRY
ROZ SAYS:
Dear Sherry,You are a survivor child! With that kind of spirit you will definitely come out on top. You turned one date into a marriage; you've overcome physical disabilities. I think you're a wonder woman! So - What to do? Put your natural abilities to work here. You must have some terrific ones to have done what you did. And as far as being a little overweight, forget it. America is overweight! And I really believe men really like women with some meat on their bones. Just make yourself as pretty as possible and circulate! Online, as well as joining church groups, any kind of participation things where people gather together in activities that interest you, and you will make dates! Maybe the first few won't be husband material but you're practicing! And I can tell you will do it. I'm with you, kid. Thumbs up!
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DAVID SAYS:
Dear Sherry,Well, the whole American consumer lifestyle and value systems sets everyone up for a fall from time to time. This seems like a more comprehensive issue, I would join one or two select groups that help your life skills, reinforce your interests while broadening your ring of associations and dive right into the sea of life's endeavors - LIVE IT! None of us are perfect you just need a good dose of confidence. Not all of us can walk into a room and command the attention of others. I believe you are more concerned about your needs, I recommend being more centered on what a perspective suitor may be looking for from you. Stay loose, open new doors; open your mind and your physical self to all the potentialities that are passing your way. Also, look at your competition, many women in your age group look more 30 than 60. So invigorate your zest for life and all things will follow. You are going to be fine with or without the next great romance as long as you accelerate your interest in the world, which will in turn keep you spinning and increase others interest in you. I think you are going to be just fine.
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Dear David and Roz,
"So--' I have a fabulous lady in my life now I met online. We got together and she's beautiful, the right age, we're 68 {me} and 52 {her} and she's cozy. But she won't cook. She said in her first marriage she had a housekeeper who did the cooking when they didn't go out and she wasn't about to start cooking now! I don't know what to do about this because although I'm comfortable {retired} I can't afford to go out every night and I can't cook myself although I'd be willing to. I need some help here. She says she loves me."
- TROUBLED
ROZ SAYS:
Dear Troubled,I think you had better get a good recipe book. At the risk of being called sexist {which of course I'm not} I believe all the great chefs are men! You might just get to like cooking. You might even have talent. And you might even wind up with a second career. You could open a restaurant! And it might be fun!!. Let us know what happens. Invite us to dinner!
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DAVID SAYS:
Dear Troubled,Well cooking is a wonderful exercise that incorporates the exploration of the environment, from the pursuits of the farmer or fisherman to the table. I would combine the planning, budgeting of the weekly meals as a team effort. Just the researching seasonal availability of ingredients, shopping, preparation, setting the mood, the tabletop and the enjoying add up to a great life style improvement. The key is that preparing a meal takes the support of both of you in energy expended. Don't despair with a little imagination and common sense it will be fun, interesting, a whole activity in the center of everyday life that will bring great satisfaction in its creation and of course the validation of your efforts in the festive ecstasy of enjoying together something special each day. . The conversations alone will be sure to stimulate along with all the sensual aromas, flavors and textures. The bottom line is that you should do more to support your fabulous lady and this change in your thinking will bring you health, deliciously additive meals and cozy evenings ahead.
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