Dating Advice: ASK DAVID & ROZ
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Welcome to dating advice from David & Roz.
After a little break we're now back on track with our dating advice column!
Keep those dating questions coming and we'll keep giving you the advice you love.
Here's a little background information for you on our two advisors.
David is an attractive bachelor, restaurateur, active, athletic, 55 and very wise in the way of the dating world.
Roz, a widow of a certain age, a business woman, racehorse owner and breeder who is well-traveled, interested and interesting is also here to give you a hand.
They will be your sounding board.
Use the form at the bottom of the page to email us whatever you want their opinions on.
So start now and let us hear from you!
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Dear David and Roz,
"I am having problems! I went out the second time with a man my age and we had a lovely time. He wanted to do more than his share of kissing and I said we should wait for the next time. The next day I called him and it was as if we were strangers. I like him very much. What is going on?"
- JUDY IN 20814
ROZ SAYS:
Dear Judy,In my opinion there are only two things to do. One is to forget him and maybe in time, short or long, he may if he Really likes you, come around. The other is to call him again and say something like "Look, I really like you and we've been out together and had a good time together. I'm just a little slow. Let's continue to see each other and things will take their course. In the meantime we're getting to know each other and we're having some fun". Not everybody is on the same track, and it sounds like he's one of the speedier ones. Or it could be he's just out for no good, in which case you really don't want him anyway. So give it a try.
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DAVID SAYS:
Dear Judy,As a man I understand that women often want to take a logistical progression to becoming intimate. That's great if your instincts are not clear about a man's intentions but remember you are sub merging the opportunity for an immediate passionate response because you are making rules which often throw too much reality into a romantic liftoff as well as rejection. Responsible spontaneity by adults is great; it fires the flames of passions. The alternative is it's like waiting days or weeks after proposing to a bride or pitching BUSINESS DEAL. This approach clearly takes away the power of feeling wanted which is a big aphrodisiac for most of us. Also on another level of consciousness men perceive a woman who is holding back as, perhaps a bit selfish, disinterested, and somewhat calculating & an inability to discern, understand & appreciate the treasure right in front of you. If see his qualities I would jump in responsibly or play the numbers game like a big insurance company.
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Dear David and Roz,
"After years of marriage. She left me for her high school sweetheart. Would you believe it? Anyway, now I'm on my own and I like to go out and have a good time. I enjoy the company of women but my problem is that if they start getting amorous I just can't rise to the occasion because they don't interest me in that way. The women I go out with aren't kids. I can talk to them, I enjoy being with them, but that's all there is to it. So it's a total turn-off for both of us when that happens. I don't know what to do. I don't like to go out with girls young enough to be my daughter. Any ideas? I'm a Good Joe."
ROZ SAYS:
Dear Good Joe,I think the answer to your dilemma is just don't get yourself into intimate situations. Keep things friendly and impersonal with other people around so there is no opportunity for any unwanted moves. Love makes the world go round and you never know if one of these ladies as time goes on will tickle your fancy when you least expect it. And then you'll have the best of both worlds!
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DAVID SAYS:
Dear Good Joe,Good nutrition, good living, a positive life-force & optimistic goals are the essentials that many wise middle aged and beyond men and women skillfully utilize to secure their relationships and foundation in society. So I believe it is not about age but about vitality and a daily optimistic approach to living. I believe as you say "rise to the occasion" you must be intellectually, physically & spiritually attracted to a dating partner. You must also have compatible value systems which open up a basis for sense of humor and laughter. I believe you should look for an interesting, compatible companion and mother nature will take car of the rest, If not visit your family physicians for a good physical and life style advice. If you're fit then there is always that prescription your physician can write which will boost your confidence. We are all aging so we have to adapt our though process, be more patient, more accepting & set positive nurturing goals for you and your friends and dating partners.
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