Dating Advice: ASK DAVID & ROZ

Dear David and Roz,
"IM A WIDOW AND 36YRS OLD, MY QUESTION IS THAT IS IT POSSIBLE TO FIND A SOUL MATE AGAIN, IF SO HOW CAN I FIND ONE THROUGH INTERNET."
- GUZ in LONER

ROZ SAYS: You're doing the absolute right thing in coming to us because matches made in heaven are often started on the internet! What bothers me tho' about your request is that we're a site for over 55'ers and you're only 36? practically a baby. Not to take away anything from our site but you should check some of the other dating sites that cater to young people, then give it a whirl with your best profile forward. Good luck!

DAVID SAYS: To find a soul mate again means you already know and remember all the ways to recognize it once you have it. The problem is many of us forget that it has to develop naturally through its many stages and often we are all guilty of searching for immediate gratification in our lives. Don't despair - it takes time, patience and a strong desire to make it successful on both sides of a growing relationship. It's not that easy to hit it out of the park on the first swing but the internet certainly gives you an advantage because of the search options and the shear numbers of potentials that are out there. Just as important is your intuition, call it a third eye that feels when there is real opportunity - fertile ground. My advice is to maintain a positive frame of mind, be consistent, keep an open mind and look for little victories like a nice conversation, casual outing or a romantic rendezvous. Give it time, nurturing and the strong desire to be successful. It may all turn your way and why shouldn't you succeed this time once and forever. Happy hunting.

Dear David and Roz,
"I went to a party a few weeks ago and through a friend I work with met a woman I thought was very attractive and who seemed to be interested in me. I didn't say anything but I actually met this woman before and we'd even had a drink together. At the time she gave me a brush off when I said I'd like to see her again, and I can tell you it hurt. This time we really hit it off but at one point she said it was funny but I reminded her of somebody but she couldn't quite remember. As I said I didn't say anything because I'd had a little work done and it was obvious she didn't recognize me. In my work I need to look good, I'm in the fashion world. So now I'm in the position of living sort of a lie here. I don't know what to say or do about this. What do you think?"
- Reg of New York

ROZ SAYS: Dear Reg, Did you ever hear the the saying Let Sleeping Dogs Lie? I'd leave this one strictly alone. Firstly, you must look pretty darn good to get such a complete turnaround from the lady. Secondly, you're obviously just in the beginning of this relationship so you don't really know where it's going, even whether you want it to go anywhere at all. I say, take your time. If later on you and she begin to make beautiful music together you can bring it up and she'll probably get a big laugh out of it that she'd thought you looked 'familiar' but didn't recognize you! It is a funny story though! You never know, do you? Let us know if you walk down the aisle. And if you don't give some of the SDE cuties a chance at you, you big hunk!

DAVID SAYS: People move through their lives so fast at times that often they miss the good stuff perhaps because of lack of interest, perception, current distractions or priorities and timing. So I don't believe it is important to go back to go forward. She has already indicated there is some vague familiarity and it will come to her in a waking early morning dream or you will give in and give her little hints. In the mean time take what you have learned and apply it to improving your prospects for a successful beginning of a long and positive relationship. At the right time you can always supply the missing bit of data but for now I would start with a clean slate for both you.