Dating Advice: ASK DAVID & ROZ
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Welcome to dating advice from David & Roz.
We've been writing this dating advice column for a while now and we're getting great feedback about how its helping people.
So keep those dating questions coming and we'll keep giving you the advice you need to succeed in love.
Who are we?
Well David is an attractive bachelor, restaurateur, active, athletic, 55 and very wise in the way of the dating world.
Roz, a widow of a certain age, a business woman, racehorse owner and breeder who is well-traveled, interested and interesting is also here to give you a hand.
Collectively we've been dating for over 100 years!
We will answer any dating question you have, so send it in.
Use the form at the bottom of the page to email us whatever you have on your mind.
So withoput further ado, here are the latest and greatest of the questions we've received.
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Dear David and Roz,
"I have a problem that maybe other women of my age (61) might like to have, but it is driving me crazy because I'm confronted with it every day and I don't know what to do. I have two men in my life. Both are "eligible” as they say. One is 72, in good shape, the other is 64 , also in good shape. One, the older one, has money but is a little boring. However he's as good as they come. The other has dash, is fun, has no money, and expects me to pay most of the time. I am leaning towards the “Good Time Charlie" but I'm afraid the little money I have will go and then what will happen? With the older one I'd have nothing to worry about- it would be a nice life - but no fun. They both want to marry me .So what do you say? Am I hot or what? jJust kidding!)"
- Undecided
ROZ SAYS:
Dear Undecided:
You aren't going to listen to me. You know you're going to go for the fun. Just the way you sign yourself says it all. And so what? You might as well have a good time if you can afford it. How many women have that choice. So go for it and hope that it will all turn out the way you want it to. Maybe your "Good Time Charlie" will even come into some money along the way from a long lost aunt's inheritance!
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DAVID SAYS:
Dear Undecided,
Hot or not your complexities are creating limitations for you and whoever your choice may end up to be. You should follow your heart but since you have added money as a point of consideration, this is now an issue that you have allowed to complicate and limit all the romantic possibilities. Before I give you my advice you might first ask yourself if your decision-making as it relates to men in the past has consistently served yourself well? If you choose Good Time Charlie be careful you may end up like the moth who is attracted to the light of the fire until it’s too late and consumed. Although the older well-kept man is stable and would provide an excellent foundation for expanding your horizons with some globetrotting to exotic spots, taking in the culture & enjoying each other’s companionship it seems your heart has spoken & it is just waiting to drag your mind along. Therefore, dive, hop-skip-jump, pogo stick right in with Good Time Charlie. If things don’t workout you will have at least good practice under your belt for getting around in the future when there may be no money left for your favorite car or gas to pump into it. It is good you wrote to us. I would sleep on it and make your decision soon because you may be surprised that both men also may have other choices as well. Good luck!
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Dear David and Roz,
"I have a partner in my business and we're both divorced guys. I have no kids; he has three, with their mother. He and I sometimes double date. Recently we went out with two ladies we met online, and they turned out pretty good - only thing both of us went for the same one. When we talked about it afterwards we agreed if one of us wanted to make a real move the other would drop out. So my partner said he wanted to, and now I don't want to drop out. I know I'm wrong but I really like this woman and I don't think he's serious and I think I could be. It’s the first time in our partnership there is something that could threaten it- and we have a good business together. I’m worried, a lot. Tell me what you think I should do here."
- Confused
ROZ SAYS:
Dear Confused:
This is a hard call because you obviously are sincere and there's a lot at stake. On the one hand you could threaten your livelihood, on the other this woman could be the love of your life and to drop out feeling this way could be a lifelong mistake. My suggestion would be to talk to your partner friend and be up front with him. Tell him when you agreed you didn't realize you'd feel this way and how important it is to you (if it really is, when you think about it) and see what his reaction is. Maybe in that case he'll say he'll drop out! You have to give it a try! Good luck to you.
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DAVID SAYS:
Dear Confused,
That's easy. Be a man and don't let a woman come between your friendship. The women come and go but good business partners and friends must always stay together. If you both have the same attraction then agree that neither will entertain her. If your partner has already begun to approach and date her then I would give him the right-away and your blessings. If this is still in the talking stages then I must commend you both because you are sharing, communicating & trying to resolve a potential flashpoint now before it becomes a dangerous issue. If you are both secure then perhaps a productive approach might be as gentlemen to tell her that you are both interested in her and keep it light and fun. Maybe she will have a good resolution and an extremely attractive friend for the loser now winner. I am sure it is going to work out fine all around.
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