Dating Advice: ASK DAVID & ROZ
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Welcome to dating advice from David & Roz.
We've been writing this dating advice column for a while now and we're getting great feedback about how its helping people.
So keep those dating questions coming and we'll keep giving you the advice you need to succeed in love.
Who are we?
Well David is an attractive bachelor, restaurateur, active, athletic, 55 and very wise in the way of the dating world.
Roz, a widow of a certain age, a business woman, racehorse owner and breeder who is well-traveled, interested and interesting is also here to give you a hand.
Collectively we've been dating for over 100 years!
We will answer any dating question you have, so send it in.
Use the form at the bottom of the page to email us whatever you have on your mind.
So withoput further ado, here are the latest and greatest of the questions we've received.
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Dear David and Roz,
"I'm a 60-year-old guy going out with a lady of my own age and we've both been married before. I also have an old friend I’ve known since we were boys together in school. He’s a widower now. We all three went on a trip and I thought it would be fun; these are the two closest people in the world to me. Well, on the face of it it seemed fine, but then she started telling me that she didn't want him with us, that she didn't want me to go anywhere with him anymore now that she and I are together, and didn't even want me to talk to him on the phone or she'd leave me! She actually answered the phone and told him I wasn't there. I think this is all crazy, but I want somehow to hang on to both of them in my life if I can. But how, that is the question. I'm one confused guy."
- Confused Guy
ROZ SAYS:
Dear Confused Guy:
The lady methinks has a controlling problem and its obviously out of hand. Of course you should continue your friendship of many years with your old school buddy without any interference from the lady in your life {unless something happened between them you're unaware of that is so awful she hasn't told you and has resulted in this behavior, but I doubt that is the case}. I think you need to sit her down and in no uncertain terms say to her that he's your oldest and best friend and nothing is going to change that that you care for her very much but if she's going to give you this ridiculous ultimatum then she'll just have to leave. You simply have to stand up for yourself, show her the kind of man you are, and if she doesn't back down, then I say you're better off without her. You may feel lost for a while if she really goes, but I'm sure someone more wonderful will come into your life. There are lots of ladies out there just looking for a great guy like you. Buck up!
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DAVID SAYS:
Dear Confused Guy,
You may want to examine the negative consequences to your health & wellbeing of holding on to both. The lady is way too controlling and insensitive to your needs and downright rude to your friend. I would sit her down; explain to her this behavior is unacceptable unless of course, there is more to the story. Perhaps there is a reason for her possessive and belligerent antics. Barring the discovery that your male friend insulted her in some way in the past or doesn’t bath regularly you might want to step back. This would tell me to take a close look at her motives and other possible ways she has manipulated you in the past in other endeavors. If you are crazy about her I would still assert your feelings about spending time with your good friends and let her sit at home or make her own plans.
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Dear David and Roz,
"A widower has been sitting with me at church every Sunday for about a year, but has never asked for a date. I am a widow. He is very nice and I would like to get to know him better, is there anything I could do to encourage him to ask for a date? He likes to golf and fish and likes to go to sports events, should I ask him to go fishing with me? I do like to fish."
- Ellen In Arkansas
ROZ SAYS:
Dear Ellen In Arkansas:
You are probably the answer to this fellow's prayers. A woman who likes to go fishing is a rare bird, and I think if you engage him in conversation about it, showing how knowledgeable you are, not just saying you're interested to get a date, but really truly interested, I believe he'd cotton to you and say maybe you'd like to come along on his next outing. That’s what I would do. And I like to fish too!
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DAVID SAYS:
Dear Ellen In Arkansas,
Fish’n around. Ask him enthusiastically and I guarantee he will say yes. Just be careful since some fishermen keep their favorite fishing spots, bait & tackle a secret. Instead tell him about yours, arrange a lunch and ask him to go along because you hear they are really biting. How can you lose? You are sharing a secret place with him, the nourishment of good eating & the pleasure of each other’s company. Once on the water you might play it by ear and don’t overdue it, save some time for cleaning up afterwards. Maybe you will go for a swim and who cares if you left your bathing suits behind just make sure you have a few large beach towels handy. Fish or not he is going to be one lucky bloke.
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