Dating Advice: ASK DAVID & ROZ
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Welcome to dating advice from David & Roz.
We've been writing this dating advice column for a while now and we're getting great feedback about how its helping people.
So keep those dating questions coming and we'll keep giving you the advice you need to succeed in love.
Who are we?
Well David is an attractive bachelor, restaurateur, active, athletic, 55 and very wise in the way of the dating world.
Roz, a widow of a certain age, a business woman, racehorse owner and breeder who is well-traveled, interested and interesting is also here to give you a hand.
Collectively we've been dating for over 100 years!
We will answer any dating question you have, so send it in.
Use the form at the bottom of the page to email us whatever you have on your mind.
So withoput further ado, here are the latest and greatest of the questions we've received.
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Dear David and Roz,
"I guess I’m one of those called a baby boomer. I’m married for a long time, nice wife, nothing unpleasant, but I’m restless. I feel like where am I going, what am I doing, the children are grown and living their own lives and I keep thinking there must be something out there for me more than this? I shouldn’t complain but that’s how I feel. I keep thinking I should maybe get a divorce and start over again I actually think my wife feels the same way but she doesn’t say anything. We seem to just be going through the motions. What’s your advice to a guy like me?"
- {Signed} Unhappy
ROZ SAYS:
Dear Unhappy:
I think you need a good vacation to some exotic place - WITH your wife! You’ve been married to this woman for all the years and it’s been ok so you only need to put some spark in the relationship. Shake it up! Get out and dance, play, have some fun, give yourself and her some good times -but together! I think you’ll be surprised at how exciting your old flame can be again, even if you’re married to her!
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DAVID SAYS:
Dear Unhappy,
The problem lies within you. Exploding your marriage is not the answer. However, finding new interests & passions to explore together and just as importantly apart will make you both more intriguing to each other. Don’t ditch your lifelong partner and become victims of the disposable society syndrome. Find your center and from that spot look outward at the all the possibilities with the eyes and heart of a child. In every relationship there is the constant balancing between distance & intimacy that needs to be acknowledged and nourished allowing you both to grow as individuals while at the same time buttressing your relationship on your life voyage aboard this amazing, ever-changing place called earth.
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Dear David and Roz,
"My girlfriend and I are both 62.We’ve known each other since school, more than fifty years ago, and we get along like old friends do, squabble, fight, makeup, all that. Anyway, we went on a vacation recently to a ski resort, we don’t ski, but its nearby, so we apres-ski there, if you know what I mean. So we met this darling ski instructor, I think he’s about 31,tall, handsome, strong. And he was flirting with us; I guess part of the job? Both of us like him. Of course it will come to nothing. We’re like his grandmas, but my friend and I are fighting over him. She gets angry if he dances with me more than he does with her. I don’t say it but I’m a better dancer than she is! Well, for the first time with all this jealousy, it’s like serious. I don’t want to lose her friendship but I enjoy dancing with him and I don’t want to give that up when we go back for another little spring time out, which we’ve been planning. The whole thing is ridiculous, silly, but real nevertheless. So what do I do? He told us that in the off-season he works there as a bartender so we’ll see him for sure. He’s really the reason we’re going back so soon but neither of us will admit it. I need a quick answer. Help!!!"
- Margaret from Idaho
ROZ SAYS:
Dear Margaret:
If it weren’t so serious a problem it would be funny. Two ladies of a certain age fighting over the flirtatious intentions of a young man who could be their grandson! Well, I think you should say to your best friend something like ‘ Look, Maisie, this guy is fun but lets just agree that he likes both of us, that its part of his job to keep people who come to the resort happy, and we should just enjoy being with him, and share him, no reason to vie for him, there’s plenty of him to go around! And the both of you go shopping and get some new outfits to wear on your next little fling! It’ll all work out fine!
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DAVID SAYS:
Dear Margaret,
Have you both gone cuckoo with driving up to the ski resort to dance and flirt with a 31 year old ski instructor? If dancing and flirting is your game then fill your dance card with a variety of gentlemen who may each have some special assets to offer and why not share them with each other and drop the jealousy. It should go without saying, that despite best efforts, the inevitable wear and tear of life sculpting faces and silhouettes does occur. Unless it has disabled your reasoning you should both wakeup and enjoy a great laugh together. If that doesn’t work, then the next time you step out of the shower take a real look. It’s good to dream and fantasize but you must know it’s time for a serious reality check. Why not use your imagination more productively, write a new reality show and call it Fantasy Dancing. Then with your new fortune you will have many men of all ages doing the bunny hop after you. Attractive options come and go but the lesson is that they should never be allowed to jeopardize a valued, proven friendship while you’re just dancing & having fun!
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