Dating Advice: ASK DAVID & ROZ
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Welcome to dating advice from David & Roz.
We've been writing this dating advice column for a while now and we're getting great feedback about how its helping people.
So keep those dating questions coming and we'll keep giving you the advice you need to succeed in love.
Who are we?
Well David is an attractive bachelor, restaurateur, active, athletic, 55 and very wise in the way of the dating world.
Roz, a widow of a certain age, a business woman, racehorse owner and breeder who is well-traveled, interested and interesting is also here to give you a hand.
Collectively we've been dating for over 100 years!
We will answer any dating question you have, so send it in.
Use the form at the bottom of the page to email us whatever you have on your mind.
So withoput further ado, here are the latest and greatest of the questions we've received.
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Dear David and Roz,
"I am a woman close to 70 but good looking still. Slim and full of zip and go! I have a boyfriend for the past few years who’s attractive a sometimes fun. He’s a few years younger than I am. But he doesn’t really like to do anything I like to do and because of our relationship I’ve let things go that I would like to do and should be doing like I used to with my husband. The boyfriend only likes to go to parties and mostly says that he can’t bring me because I haven’t been invited. I think he should tell whomever that he wants to bring me but he won’t do it and goes on his own. Not only that but he finds fault with everything I wear and how I look. I resent all this but don’t say anything because I guess at my age there are very slim pickins’ and I guess I should be satisfied to have anybody at all in my life. But I keep thinking as Peggy Lee {remember her?} used to sing ‘Is that all there is?’ Tell me."
- Beatrice
ROZ SAYS:
Dear Beatrice,
I think you should be looking around and see if maybe somebody else nice could be lurking. Your friend sounds extremely selfish and for whatever reason seems to want to have you but also goes out on his own as if he’s a single man, which he really isn’t. Right? While it’s true there are not that many possibilities when you reach a certain age in your case if I were you I’d keep my eyes open, get out there and look! And then you just might find the perfect one. And then give bozo the heave ho. Tell him he wasn’t invited!
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DAVID SAYS:
Dear Beatrice,
Life’s too short for any of this. You are in a “formalized” not a “casual relationship” and your man refuses to declare to others that he is in a committed relationship with you. This behavior in itself seems to be an accurate metaphor that clearly tells the whole story. You are not being cherished and probably being psychiatrically abused. Just to be sure, my advice to you is to make a list of both the driving (POSITIVE) & the restraining (NEGATIVE) forces of your relationship and then draw your own conclusions. In the mean time get back to the things that bring you happiness. Be brave, have a little faith and recognize this for what is - shoddy behavior from one friend to another. This is not healthy so move on or continue to be a facilitator of a “drama triangle”. It’s your choice but never cut what you can untie.
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Dear David and Roz,
"I read your column and like it. I think you’re very down to earth and tell it like it is. So, here goes - I’m a decent looking guy pushing 65,divorced. But I’m short and I have a complex about my height. Women don’t like short men, and so even if somebody cottons to me I have a tendency to run away because I feel they’re just settling for me and most of the women are taller than I am. I know its ridiculous and I should give whoever comes along a chance but I find myself doing this over and over again. I can’t help it. My ex wife’s new husband is six feet which doesn’t help any. So there it is .I feel inadequate. And I really am a decent fellow and would make the right woman a good husband."
- The Decent Fellow
ROZ SAYS:
Dear DF,
You have to get your head screwed on right. Just think of all the short men in history to today’s movie stars who have had great successes, short stature never bothered them! Height is not important, what’s in your heart is. So next time you meet a lady who cottons to you, as you say, feel and act 10 feet tall, dance and. romance and pretty soon I believe you’ll find she’ll see you as the prince charming she’s been waiting for, even if you are shorter than she is! Best to you.
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DAVID SAYS:
Dear DF,
We all have genetic preferences for choosing mates and the good thing for you is they vary wildly. In your mind your body image may not be perfect but let the women decide what turns them on. You are unique and the right woman will recognize it. There are many successful short men in film, sports, business and every walk of life. You should know by now that this is not a matter of altitude but one of attitude. Count your blessings and when in a room filled with people be yourself, cultivate your sense of humor and most importantly combine it all with a stiff dose of self-confidence. If you are searching on line always keep your profile honest which will eliminate much of the anxiety of meeting someone for the first time knowing they already have read your vitals, approve and want to know more. Good luck!
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