ROZ SAYS:
Dear Bloke,
I won’t say dumb because obviously you’re not. Just a little lost on the path of life. But you’ll find your way, just jump in as your mom (God bless her) says and it’ll all work out just fine. There are so many lovely ladies out there just waiting for somebody like you to come along, somebody to make a life with, to have good times together. I believe there’s somebody for everybody. It just hasn’t been your turn yet, but that time will come. Take my word for it and for a start check out our SDE beauties! Good luck.
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DAVID SAYS:
Dear Bloke,
Where to start? First, let’s dispel your false assumptions; you are not a “Dumb Bloke” and quite the contrary. Let’s take inventory: your are young, in good health and focused on your needs and reaching out to get expertise in formulating an action plan. This is all terrific and my hat is off to you in seeing clearly. Fortunately, Maslow has already devised a theory and a pyramid of the stages of human development called Maslow's hierarchy of needs, represented as a pyramid with the more primitive needs at the bottom. It seems you have climbed half the way up the pyramid to becoming self-actualizing. At the base you have taken care of your physiological needs such as food, shelter; next you have successfully established your personal safety from crime, & secure employment or income. After the physiological and safety needs are fulfilled, the third layer of human needs is social. This psychological aspect of Maslow's hierarchy involves emotionally-based relationships in general, such as: humans need to feel a sense of belonging and acceptance, whether it comes from a large social group (such as clubs, office culture, religious groups professional organizations, sports teams, or small social connections (family members, intimate partners, mentors, close colleagues, confidants). Humans need to love and be loved (sexually and non-sexually) by others. In the absence of these elements, many people become susceptible to loneliness, social anxiety and depression.
You have come along way and this is where you stand now. You have framed correctly your needs and have opened a space in your heart for someone special. Now you must tune your social skills, expand your social networking, stay positive and as your mother advised jump right in. Some of the greatest gifts of life are just ahead & I am betting on your future successes.
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