Dating Advice: ASK DAVID & ROZ
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Welcome to dating advice from David & Roz.
We've been writing this dating advice column for a while now and we're getting great feedback about how its helping people.
So keep those dating questions coming and we'll keep giving you the advice you need to succeed in love.
Who are we?
Well David is an attractive bachelor, restaurateur, active, athletic, 55 and very wise in the way of the dating world.
Roz, a widow of a certain age, a business woman, racehorse owner and breeder who is well-traveled, interested and interesting is also here to give you a hand.
Collectively we've been dating for over 100 years!
We will answer any dating question you have, so send it in.
Use the form at the bottom of the page to email us whatever you have on your mind.
So withoput further ado, here are the latest and greatest of the questions we've received.
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Dear David and Roz,
"I am a bi-racial man in my late 50's, sort of a Barack Obama type. I had been married to a black woman for many years till she ran off with another guy and we divorced. No children. I have now met a really great lady, white, who has no idea of my background I really care for her and I think I'd like to marry her but I'm afraid when I tell her all about me, which I feel I have to do I will lose her. I have a very demanding job, and this dilemma is affecting my work because it is my life and it’s constantly on my mind. I can't help it. I don't know what to-do. Can you give me some advice? Thanks"
- All Mixed Up
ROZ SAYS:
Dear All Mixed Up,
You said it yourself .You feel you have to tell her about you. And I agree. But you have to tell her all about you. Not just your being bi-racial, but how much you love her, what a wonderful husband you will be, that you are stable, and have a great job, and you and she would have a fabulous life together, going places doing things, and she'd never find anybody better! If she's worth your interest she'll be with you 100%, or you have to put this one behind you. You sound strong and you can do it. I’ll bet on you!
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DAVID SAYS:
Dear All Mixed Up,
I guess I don’t understand your dilemma? What portion of your previous life might negatively impact the potential success of your upstart relationship? I believe you should fill in the big blanks in your past at the appropriate time. I can’t imagine that you wouldn’t want to be open with each other. Think of all the enriching aspects of your earlier life that you will be able to share. Of course, if your new woman has a problem then perhaps she is not the best candidate for you for the long haul.
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Dear David and Roz,
"My girl friend and I are both part of a group of friends who have kept up with each other since high school days, which is a long time ago. We’re in our sixties! We’ve all gotten married, divorced, widowed all of that, one or the other. Now after all these years my old high school boy friend has come back to town, newly divorced from a much younger woman he married in the big city he settled in after he went off to college, and became a successful entrepreneur. He called me to say 'hello’, to 'catch up' he said, whatever. I'm a widow, and I tell you it was a thrill hearing from him. Like we just picked up where we left off! So we met and he's so handsome and exciting. But my girl friend has butted in saying she wants to say hi too. That she'd also gone out with him at one point. It was like we were back in high school. I told her to leave him alone and she said 'no' and that's where it is. What, what, what do I do?"
- Going Crazy
ROZ SAYS:
Dear Going Crazy,
I think its great that this man has come back into your life in these later years. Many times is happened that a fantastic relationship comes along second time around. I hope this is one of them and it works out for you. Obviously he's thought of you because he remembered the good times. But you have to realize if your girl friend makes a pitch for his interest there is nothing you can do about it. It is up to him to reject her or not. Though it sounds to me that he has you on his mind and that's good. Don’t worry about it. It will work out o. K. could turn out you and he will share your golden years together and she will realize he's not for her after all, and you will all be friends with possibly somebody he knows from the big city who will take a shine to your girlfriend!
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DAVID SAYS:
Dear Going Crazy,
It sounds like you all have a case of social incest. If the sparks are mutually sparking between you and this man then you have nothing to fear, just concentrate on enjoying the time you have together. In your self-made close social network your female acquaintance will eventually have her chance with the man from both of your pasts so why keep them apart? This tactic may only add to their attraction. It’s not who found him first but which attraction is stronger & truer. May the best woman win!
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