Dating Advice: ASK DAVID & ROZ
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Welcome to dating advice from David & Roz.
We've been writing this dating advice column for a while now and we're getting great feedback about how its helping people.
So keep those dating questions coming and we'll keep giving you the advice you need to succeed in love.
Who are we?
Well David is an attractive bachelor, restaurateur, active, athletic, 55 and very wise in the way of the dating world.
Roz, a widow of a certain age, a business woman, racehorse owner and breeder who is well-traveled, interested and interesting is also here to give you a hand.
Collectively we've been dating for over 100 years!
We will answer any dating question you have, so send it in.
Use the form at the bottom of the page to email us whatever you have on your mind.
So withoput further ado, here are the latest and greatest of the questions we've received.
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Dear David and Roz,
"I'm just turning 70 but look younger. I have a girlfriend for many years who also is about that age but looks a lot younger too, we've always gotten along great and have been talking about getting married. But I'm in a freelance business in which I work with women mainly. one of them has taken a big shine to me and has told people she's going to "get" me no matter what it takes. I'm not interested in her but I do work with her a lot and my income would suffer if I quit her. the two women met once briefly and it was instant ice. It's become a nightmare for me and I don't know what to do. I'm getting ultimatums from both sides. Tell me."
- Mixed up guy
ROZ SAYS:
Dear Mixed up guy,
You have to go where your heart is The one who really matters to you is the one you have to be with because there's no way you can split yourself and make it work. All that will happen is that the three of you will make each other miserable. Think about it this way. If you give up the woman in your business life you can always replace the income you get from the relationship (even in these hard times) but if you take a chance on losing the woman you love you would be ruining your life and hers too. Don't make that mistake. True love is hard to find. To me this is a no - brainer. And I wish you the best.
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DAVID SAYS:
Dear Mixed up guy,
Kick yourself really hard. This is a ridiculous situation that you have gotten yourself into. First your girlfriend should keep herself out of your business and know how to be the ideal supporting companion with your business associates & clients. Second, you must soon have a minor realignment of the behavior norms between you and your client. I would reinforce the positive impact of your talent on her business fortunes and ask her for now to leave the romantic drama on the sidelines except for the occasional harmless flirtations. My advice is to be consistent yet sensitive and separate business from pleasure. It seems you are able to manage the client if only your girlfriend would take a more mature approach. As for ultimatums from either side, you should never negotiate with a terrorist. Maybe it is time to step back & appreciate all your options.
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Dear David and Roz,
"I am a woman in my 60's with a man in my life who is fun and interesting and tells me he loves me! We do some traveling together and have good times. The problem is there's a woman who constantly calls him at all hours of the day and night. His cell phone rings and there she is. I tell him not to encourage her by being so agreeable when she calls but he is flattered by the attention. He says she's a friend. I say she's an underminer who should pay more attention to her husband who I believe she married just to make my guy jealous! She comes to bring him coffee and doughnuts from Starbucks every morning to start his day (He and I don't live together) I don't like it but I don't know what to do about it, so what do you think?"
- Jealous I guess
ROZ SAYS:
Dear Jealous,
I think there's nothing to do about this because if she's married to somebody else she has a real commitment to her husband and that in itself is a protection for you in your relationship with your man Think too that if he really wanted her he wouldn't be with you. So maybe you should suggest the four of you get together for dinner and all be friends. Get it? They say if you cant lick'em, join'em. You'll be fine.
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DAVID SAYS:
Dear Jealous,
You're not married so the first new assumption you must accept is that the man in your life enjoys his freedom and why not. Perhaps sometime he will realize that you are precious and even irreplaceable and make a firm commitment to you. Until that time I would slowly, quietly expand your social activities and disregard whatever is irritating you about the current state of affairs. It is irrelevant if she is married or not. Your man has permitted this behavior to perpetuate itself, which is an insult to you & your budding relationship. I would feel disrespected which would probably push me away & towards someone new and a better more appreciative set of circumstances. Start dating.
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