Dating Advice: ASK DAVID & ROZ
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Welcome to dating advice from David & Roz.
We've been writing this dating advice column for a while now and we're getting great feedback about how its helping people.
So keep those dating questions coming and we'll keep giving you the advice you need to succeed in love.
Who are we?
Well David is an attractive bachelor, restaurateur, active, athletic, 55 and very wise in the way of the dating world.
Roz, a widow of a certain age, a business woman, racehorse owner and breeder who is well-traveled, interested and interesting is also here to give you a hand.
Collectively we've been dating for over 100 years!
We will answer any dating question you have, so send it in.
Use the form at the bottom of the page to email us whatever you have on your mind.
So withoput further ado, here are the latest and greatest of the questions we've received.
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Dear David and Roz,
"We are twin sisters, 65. We look exactly alike. Even though we always wear different outfits people really can't tell us apart? Now we've met this wonderful guy who wants to marry us (we're both widows), and I mean "us". He said the idea of it excites him. I told him you cant do that and he said" why not? Nobody will be able to tell the difference and all we have to do is not for the two of us to be seen together! And that we could be a happy trio. Actually I wouldn't mind doing it, I kind of like the idea, and my sister agrees. What do you think? Am I hot to trot?"
ROZ SAYS:
Dear Hot, I think from a legal standpoint of course you can't do it. From a moral standpoint you shouldn't do it, but if the three of you want to just live together and you're all happy with the arrangement (not marriage) I guess you could try that these are fairly flexible times we live in. But don't say I said it. I'll deny it. Just kidding. Have fun. Incidentally you didn't say how old this fellow is. I hope he's over 21!
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DAVID SAYS:
Dear Still Hot To Trot, You and your sister are alike but different & have been best friends all your lives. Unless the two of you are socially & economically dependent upon each other for every little thing then I think the idea is flawed with limitations & serious dangers. Are there rules? Will this be defined as a monogamous relationship among three? Are all three of you equally committed to the success of the relationship? Have the three of you abandoned all hope for a future balanced, loving & intimate relationship with another individual. I can understand your curiosity to explore such a nontraditional relationship but in the end it seems too limiting and would require extreme compromises in thoughts and actions. I think this 2 for 1-sale places you and your twin in a vulnerable position based on the whims, health, vitality & integrity of the man. Communes have their advantages but you probably all can do better.
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Dear David and Roz,
"What's a guy to do when his wife walks out on him to move in with her best friend saying she's "tired of the male touch". We've been married 32 years for gosh sakes since we were 31 and 29 and are grandparents! I never fooled around and I actually miss her a lot. Theres a great big hole in my life and I keep wondering what did I do so wrong? It`s made me question everything about myself and it's very unsettling. A friend of mine said there are many women who would be happy to be with me and I should go out on a few dates. He said he'd be happy to introduce me. But I don't think I can do that yet. I`d really like to get my wife back. I love her!"
- Pitiful
ROZ SAYS:
Dear Pitiful, Your friend is right. Try. You know what they say - "Try it, you might like it"! As for getting your wife back, sometimes a woman who moves in with a woman like that can change back again. I'd say there's hope. Think Anne Heche (the movie star). I f you don't know who she is, look it up on the Internet. If you don't have a computer ask your 8-year-old grandkid to help you. Then when you get a chance to talk to your wife, and maybe invite her out for a drink or something, have a heart-to-heart and find out what she meant about being tired of the male touch and then once you know what the problem really is hopefully you can fix it. Best of luck to you.
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DAVID SAYS:
Dear Pitiful, Your wife's behavior seems at first glance somewhat self-indulgent, silly & potentially tragic. Schedule a sit down to learn and confirm the genesis of her current state of mind. With some clarification in hand, you will have the basis for reestablishing your peace of mind and balance. Take the guiltless opportunity & get back in the driver's seat. Begin by developing new friends by reinvigorating favorite activities. If you love her, tell her so but also make it clear that she is acting irrational within the context of your history. I would advise her to go away and when she has greater clarity to give you a call. In the mean time don't look back, get going and search out a series of more positive complimentary relationships.
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