Dating Advice: ASK DAVID & ROZ
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Welcome to dating advice from David & Roz.
We've been writing this dating advice column for a while now and we're getting great feedback about how its helping people.
So keep those dating questions coming and we'll keep giving you the advice you need to succeed in love.
Who are we?
Well David is an attractive bachelor, restaurateur, active, athletic, 55 and very wise in the way of the dating world.
Roz, a widow of a certain age, a business woman, racehorse owner and breeder who is well-traveled, interested and interesting is also here to give you a hand.
Collectively we've been dating for over 100 years!
We will answer any dating question you have, so send it in.
Use the form at the bottom of the page to email us whatever you have on your mind.
So withoput further ado, here are the latest and greatest of the questions we've received.
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Dear David and Roz,
"I'm a woman in my 60' s and still attractive. I go to ballet classes. I keep my hair and nails up but I'm very lonely. My two kids live far away but have their own lives and families anyway and I understand there's really no place for me there except for the occasional visit. I have a lot of money my husband left me when he died a few years ago even though he'd been married for twenty-five years after he and I divorced .So I can do anything I want to do. My problem is that although I want to have someone in my life I feel like all the men I meet (and there are not very many as you can imagine) are after my money- and that my only hope for a good relationship is with a man who also has a lot of money. But as a girl friend of mine says men with a lot of money want younger women and I don't stand a chance. So, I feel lost. Can you help me?
- Lost
ROZ SAYS:
Dear Lost, What a lucky woman you are! Not only do you have unlimited money to do whatever you want with, but you're in good shape too, going to dance classes and getting all dolled up Ah, but then you have no place to go. I think you need to change your attitude, lady, and really shape up. Money isn't everything. You should be thankful you're in the position you are in and make the most of it. Go out and do some volunteer work, engage yourself in activities that interest you, join clubs where you'll find people of like interests and men will come your way also. But instead of thinking of their pocketbooks think of their congeniality and enjoy being with them for the sake of their company and you will be getting what you want and it will be good for them too. And if it turns out that a man you meet and you like doesn't have the money to go to the theatre and also pay for dinner, pitch in, that's what money's for. Think of the expenditure as the cost of another fancy frock or another visit to an expensive hair stylist. Isn't that better than getting all dressed up with no place to go? Think about it. Change your attitude you'll do ok.
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DAVID SAYS:
Dear Lost, I imagine you have already exhausted introductions from friends & your activities are not providing you with men who meet your qualifiers. Since you are class rigid, then I would strongly recommend seeking out a reputable dating introduction service. Some excel in research to provide you with compatibility profiles and highly compatible matches based on the whole you. In addition, continue to immerse yourself in all the things that make you happy and balanced. Who knows with a small dose of expanded sensitivity to those around you what wonderful human being might turn up for you? Good luck!
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Dear David and Roz,
"I work in a car repair shop. I'm in my late fifties and divorced recently after an unhappy marriage for the last 15 years. There's a very nice lady who seems also about 50 or so who comes in with her old car every now and then when she needs something fixed and I take special care of her because, one, I'm a specialist in old cars (hers is really old .a 64 model but it still runs good) and two, I like her, she's always smiling. I had never thought of it before I was divorced but now I would like to ask her to have dinner with me one night and see where it goes but don't know how to go about it. She's always very friendly and nice, talk playfully with me and the other guys who work here. I don't know anything about her except where she lives because I also write up the bills and she pays by check, her own name. So what do I do? I don't want to do something embarrassing to her and to me .So I'm timid. Help me out here. Thanks"
- A Plain Nice Guy
ROZ SAYS:
Dear Plain Nice Guy, Did you ever hear' faint heart ne'er won fair lady as they say? So get up your gumption and next time she comes into the shop and you're bantering with her while you're charging her battery or repairing her transmission tell her about how a friend of yours told you about a great little restaurant near where she lives and ask her if she knows anything about it, that you were thinking of trying it one night after work, or something like that. I'm sure you get the idea, and if she's as lively as you say she'll pick right up on it and you'll know something. She might say "Oh my husband and I go there all the time” or she might say "Oh I don't know about it and if its that good I'd like to try it too!" So there you are. Then its up to you to seal the deal! Good luck!
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DAVID SAYS:
Dear Plain Nice Guy, That's a tuff call since you risk sacrificing your professionalism at the work place. My advice would be to rely on your intuition and expand the scope of your conversations with her from exclusively car repair issues to subjects that may be of common interest such as what do you think of the new X Y Z place that just opened in the neighborhood? I have wanted to try it? Perhaps the best approach, if the warm smiles & eye contact continue is to just be direct, apologize if you have created an uncomfortable moment and then politely ask her if she would be interested if you gave her a call.
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