Dating Advice: ASK DAVID & ROZ
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Welcome to dating advice from David & Roz.
We've been writing this dating advice column for a while now and we're getting great feedback about how its helping people.
So keep those dating questions coming and we'll keep giving you the advice you need to succeed in love.
Who are we?
Well David is an attractive bachelor, restaurateur, active, athletic, 55 and very wise in the way of the dating world.
Roz, a widow of a certain age, a business woman, racehorse owner and breeder who is well-traveled, interested and interesting is also here to give you a hand.
Collectively we've been dating for over 100 years!
We will answer any dating question you have, so send it in.
Use the form at the bottom of the page to email us whatever you have on your mind.
So withoput further ado, here are the latest and greatest of the questions we've received.
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Dear David and Roz,
"The weather has been driving me crazy as I guess it has everybody lately or maybe I'm just crankier. Anyway my partner, or call her my ladylove, wants to get out and do things. In 100 degree heat I just don’t feel like it. Also with my heart condition its bad for my health to stress myself like that. I was going to marry her but now I'm not so sure .If it comes up once it’ll come up again and I don’t know if I'd be able to take it. I'm 70 and I feel 80 sometimes. She's 60 but going on 25! So what do I do? As I said I'm cranky."
- Cranky
ROZ SAYS:
Dear Cranky, I'd say it depends on how much she means to you in your life. Nobody is perfect, neither is the weather. Look at it this way, soon it will be fall and the hot weather that has been putting you out of sorts will be past .If you and she have been good together you will be again and in the meantime take her out to a nice cool movie and have a nice romantic ice cream soda with two straws! And tell her, and I'm sure she'll understand, that the only really hot times you want are with her! Have fun!
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DAVID SAYS:
Dear Cranky, The compatibility of life forces is a key predictor for the probability for the establishment of a mutually satisfying relationship. Matching mental and physical vitality along with shared personal values & goals are the foundations for building a healthy relationship. If you are experiencing anxiety about your inability to keep up with her pace then you have several options. You might have a serious conversation with your family physician about the underlying cause of your inactivity and consider adding a supervised exercise program that will improve your quality of life The alternative is to have a candid heart to heart with ladylove and strike a compromise that works for both of you. Good luck in making the best decision.
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Dear David and Roz,
"I have been going with a man for more than 10 years. In the beginning he swept me off my feet, asking me to marry him soon after we met. It was so exciting and it made me feel young again! We’re both in our 70's but he could pass for being fiftyish with his beautiful wavy hair! Wherever we go all the women are after him because he has a flirtatious way about him and will even tell them he loves them. When I tell him I don’t like it he says he only does it to make them feel good and it doesn’t mean anything. But lately we haven’t been doing so much together anymore. What’s bothering me is that I have been paying for a lot of what we did. He never had much money. Since we were getting married it seemed the right thing to do. I didn’t think much about it. But now my money situation isn’t what it used to be and although he hasn’t said anything he seems to be more involved in things taking up his time. I now am wondering if there is something to this more than a coincidence. We still talk about our getting married but its not happening, there is no plan and I'm beginning to think am I one of those he's making feel good? What do you think is going on?"
- Wondering
ROZ SAYS:
Dear Wondering, I hate to say this but it sounds like this fellow is in it for the fun and games and money. I’m not saying that he doesn’t like you but it sounds like asking you to marry him was just one step up from telling every woman he meets that he loves her. That this is the way he operates. He’s having a good time and it's not serious. Like no harm done. I think deep down you know it too. I would say if somebody comes along you're attracted to who could be a stable possibility I wouldn’t turn him away for this bloke. But one never knows. As they say, play it by ear. You might really hear The Wedding March!
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DAVID SAYS:
Dear Wondering, I have a feeling that after ten years of acceptance of this behavior, you know exactly what is going on with the evolution of your relationship as well as your options. It might be helpful to spend some introspective time getting in touch with your feelings or seek out some professional help to confirm and then reconfirm the state of your relationship and happiness. The real issue however, is simply your strength of character to accept reality and make the necessary changes to improve the quality of your emotional state. Good luck!
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